having hard conversations with your teen
We all at some point need to have some hard (uncomfortable) conversations with our teens.
If you are anything like me…..you keep putting them off.
There are things that have to be said from a parent to their teen from time to time. It is just part of being a parent. Sometimes I feel it’s really difficult to find the perfect time to have it and (or that is what I keep telling myself).
It takes courage to talk to our teens. What I learned is that teens are waiting for us to talk to them. They want to have a conversation with their parents, but they do not know how to bring it up. They need us to teach them how to bring up hard topics or conversations from us.
They need you to be an example.
Steps to initiate the hard conversations:
Find a place where you can have your teen’s undivided attention ( my go to: a car ride)
Be honest. I usually say: I have been meaning to talk to you about something, and I am thinking now may be a good time since we are in the car together.
Be prepared. I always like to rehearse (in my mind) what I am going to say before I actually have the conversation.
Be open and engage. Listen for feedback, questions, and ask what is on their mind after you spoke with them.
Be quiet and present. Listen to your teen. Hear what they have to say and do not be eager to talk back. Listen to their perspective and try to understand they may see things differently than you.
Thank your teen. Thank them for listening and communicating with you. Let them know you are always available to chat about hard things.
Go forth! Be Brave. Have the conversations! Your teen needs to hear what you have to say!
I am off to have mine!
I would love to hear from you! If you are interested in creating a deeper relationship with your teen and want support, reach out so we can chat about life coaching and how it works!
