our words are powerful

Our words are POWERFUL.  I was at a hockey game a couple months back and I had the ability to sit above the bench of the team.  This gave me the birds eye view of the hockey bench!  

The team came out on fire!  They were dialed in!  They were on a mission to win.  You could see it and feel it!  The energy was intense in a fun, exhilarating, competitive way!   The warm up music was on point and you can tell the team was on fire!

In the book the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, the first agreement is to be impeccable with your word. “Your word is a force, it is the power you have to express and communicate, to think, and thereby to create the events in your life.”

The first period was an even hockey game.  The energy was high and the play was super competitive.  Since I had a birds eye view of the bench and could hear the coaches, I noticed how the tone changed by the end of the first period.  The words they chose to use was the game changer of what was happening on the ice.   

The coach was focusing on what was not working and kept providing more and more examples of what the players were not doing well,  rather than pointing out what was working.  

The coach’s perspective focused on the negative portions of the game without providing any advice or guidance to improve. This was the main factor why the game on the ice started to transpire into the opposite of how it started.  The players started to believe the words the coaches were saying. They started focusing on what was not working, and what you focus on the reality transpires.  

The  energy of the players changed, they felt defeated before they were even losing the game.   I am not blaming the coaches. I just want to highlight how our words impact our teens' reality. I want  to capture the importance of our thoughts and OUR words.  They affect us and others.  

The word is the most powerful tool you have as a human.

The next time you are about to speak, choose your words wisely!  Speak blessings and words
of encouragement to your teens.  See the good they are doing and choose to see that instead of what is not going well.  We know it is impossible to live a perfect life, but the pressure we put on our teens to live perfection is overwhelming and not possible to live up to.  Practice seeing the goodness and voicing it!

Speak words of encouragement even before they score the goal or steal the base.  

Our worth is not based on our accomplishments in this world.  

Our teens need to understand that they do not need to prove anything for us to love them.  

They need to see that we love them whether they do something extraordinary or not.   

Our love is unconditional!  Shower your teens with unconditional love. 

We are all worthy.  We are born worthy.  Worthy of being seen, worthy of being heard!

Let’s praise them for being them!  For being imperfectly perfect and focusing on all the good they bring to this world!  Our teens need to hear our powerful WORDS!

I am here for you and your teen!  If you want life coaching, I am ready to support you.  I work with teens and parents of teens to inspire them to be the best version of themselves and it usually starts with being impeccable with our words!